One of my favorite things to hear, talk about and read is BIRTH STORIES. In my book, Made for You and Me: Going West, Going Broke, Finding Home (out March 8th, 2011), I wrote of the evening my son was born: "I get all that beholding of Jesus that was going on now, the magic of it, the animals and wise men all standing at attention. I don't care who your baby is, when they come out of you, all you want to do us stand there and behold the miracle. It's that freaking special."
One of the things that was the hardest to edit in my book was the part about my son's birth. But believe me, it needed to be edited. It was so long and detailed--not one second spared for the intrepid reader! But I had to remember that the goal, really, was to tell less specifics about my birth in this story about my small family and our journey through the recession and more that would allow the reader to be thinking of her own birth story as she read mine!
What's not in the book, but I will always remember with special fondness is how my my OB, Dr. David Ghozland, sat me down a week before I gave birth and said this:
"Caitlin, I've read your (super natural all the way) birth plan. And we will try to make it happen. But what I need you to do is to trust me. Whatever happens in there, I want you to know we'll figure it out together. And no matter what you will not fail, your body will not fail. I don't want you going in with huge expectations in one direction or another and then feeling like you didn't succeed somehow--I've seen it happen so often. So, together, if we trust each other, we can do this, right?"
When he said that, I felt such a wave of relief come over me. I just gave myself over and did trust him. Which is probably why, after over twelve hours of active labor and no dilation, I was ok when he decided to start Pitocin and an epidural. I was better than ok, I was happy (stone me now natural childbirth gurus!). And it was--really--the most fun, the most exciting, the best day of my life.
My friend Andrea has recently published the birth story of her son Aidan on something called "babble"-- a website for parents. Take a look here: http://www.babble.com/pregnancy/giving-birth/giving-birth-story-long-labor/
She also writes a blog about being a mom called "I Don't Have Time to Write This!" Here's her recent nice mention of my book: http://dreamama.wordpress.com/2011/01/20/made-for-you-and-me-going-west-going-broke-and-finding-home/
Care to share your birth stories? I'd love to hear them.